When someone asks me a deep question, I usually don’t have an immediate reaction or a response.
This makes me a disappointing person to try to debate or attack.
If you really know me, you’ll know if I don’t have anything worth saying, I won’t say anything at all (except maybe, “interesting point”).
A few days later, after contemplating it, I’ll have a response.
This might make me look dumb or like someone not willing to stand by an opinion, but it doesn’t matter to me.
I’m not trying to win any debates and I’m not interested in going back and forth with someone pretending to be interested finding the truth when all they really want is someone to agree with them.
When someone wants to interview me, I ask them to send me questions a week in advance.
I spend hours contemplating answers from different perspectives before choosing the best or most interesting one.
“They” say your first reaction is the best or most honest, but that’s not true.
Your first reaction is usually outdated.
Either it’s an answer you came up with long ago and now use it instead of thinking, or it’s an emotional response from something in your past.
When you’re less impulsive and more deliberate, it can be inconvenient for others but people that are sincerely interested in your point of view will appreciate that you want to take the time to really contemplate important questions.
The ones that don’t, well I don’t really care what they think.
There are so many people out there trying to force-feed beliefs and opinions (and advertisements) in everyone’s face.
I don’t need to be another one and I don’t need to play in those games.
I allow myself to say “I don’t know” or “I need time to process” and then take time to contemplate…
Maybe through example, I’ll show others that they can do the same.